Dating today isn’t easy – it is so complex that it makes ordering a beverage at Starbucks look like a cakewalk. From understanding online dating to picking the right dating site for you to getting a date to planning a date to conversation topics to communication and just understanding what a potential life-mate might want, there’s more to dating than simply meet cute, fall in love, live happily ever after. Thankfully, there’s a plethora of dating advice, stories, and research on Twitter to make sure everyone has a fair chance at finding a partner and falling in love. Below is a list of our favorite 200 dating experts to follow on Twitter.
- @50Dates_States: shares dating wisdom and wisecracks across the 50 United States.
- @The50Dates: exclusively goes on dates to food trucks in San Francisco.
- @TNTML: curates and shares dating and life stories from nerds and tech-geeks .
- @awkward_photos: tweets photos and quotes from some of the worst dating profiles.
- @50_dates: explores dating in the 50 states as a 40-year-old.
- @52FirstDatesTO: goes one date a week in Canada and blogs her story.
- @creepydaters: showcases creepy dating messages sent to women engaging in online dating.
- @singlemuch: a sassy single gal in NYC looks for love in all the wrong places.
- @datehater: confessions and tales from a self-proclaimed online dating junkie.
- @lipstickandplay: is the adventures, mishaps and observations of a single mom in NYC.
- @mylifeonmatch: chronicles the true tales of an LA based online dater.
- @KellySeal: writer and former speed-dating host who curates stories about the single life.
- @carrieblogshaw: a serial singleton, loves shoes, likens herself to Carrie Bradshaw.
- @SingleCGirl: great tales of singlehood from the flats of crisp Canada.
- @singlegirlie: is a blogger posting tweets about dating in Los Angeles, California.
- @loribizz: shares dating-related stories and includes lots of celebrity dating and relationships news.
- @by_simone: real-time stories of dating and life from Canadian based author.
- @singlegirllife: daily wisdom on dating, love, life, relationships and sometimes even sex.
- @onlinehating: is dating online and telling horror stories so you don’t have to.
- @DatingDallas: mysterious author Addie tweets about her dating life in Los Angeles.
- @SingleSassyBlog: shares the good, bad and the ugly on dating in Boston.
- @my50onlinedates: a rare male author offers the tale of 50 online dates.
- @soloat30: is a 30-something single woman living with her dad and dating online.
- @metanotherfrog: tweets about dating in the UK from a variety of perspectives.
- @elizabethrose_m: is an unabashed sex-worker who shares bedroom tricks.
- @themansamsharpe: is a man about town who loves fine drinks and fine women.
- @skyemetafrog: is a writer with a penchant for love, sex, dating and relationships.
- @the_second_wife: married, divorced and remarried the same man – her story continues here.
- @jilliandates: tweets about the single life from the point of view from a divorcee.
- @genakaufman: writes for Glamour Magazine, chronicling her dating adventures.
- @DateDaily: has dating tips, sex tips, and entertainment news of the dating variety.
- @girlsguide2date: curates dating stories and advice from women over the years.
- @males_thoughts: is dedicated to providing content only for men about women.
- @20sdatingdrama: two women in their 20’s tell the story of their dating lives.
- @EXGFprblms: is a chronic ex-girlfriend who shares her hilarious thoughts on Twitter.
- @LisaJey: a single parent finds her path in the online dating world.
- @mscheevious: tweets about her incredible zest for life that makes grown men cry.
- @sassy_divorcee: shares her story about divorce and getting back on the dating horse.
- @badonlinedates: a social network designed to help you share dating horror stories.
- @LaProvocateur: shares tales of love, lust and lingerie from the San Francisco area.
- @man_shopper: tweets stories of her dating escapades in the nation’s capital of DC.
- @follyofone: follows stories of dating triumphs and tribulations in LA.
- @AccidentallySxy: writer and famed Chicago Single tells all about dating in Chi-town.
- @BrandonHoang_: a newbie dater turned pro, he dispenses advice and stories for men and women.
- @Melysa_S: inspiring adventures and misadventures in dating as a single mom.
- @singlemomdate: a 40-year old single mom recounts tales of her sex and dating life.
- @datediva: a dating maven not only dishes on her dates but gives advice, too.
- @oneguytalks: tweets tales from a man’s point of view on life, love, dating and relationships.
- @PlentyofFail: a travesty of dating in Vancouver BC, a blooper reel of one girl’s dating life.
- @TheBacheloretta: tweets and retweets the dating shenanigans of herself and single girls.
- @snglegrlprblms: single women rejoice, but of course share their dating stories too.
- @BostnSingleGirl: true stories of dating in Boston, from good to bad and back again.
- @kissnblog: when the dating gets tough, the tough tweet about their love wonders and woes.
- @LifeByteStory: gals who date in real life then share their real stories with the twitterverse.
- @JYDatingBlind: dating expert author shares embarrassing stories so they may resonate with other online daters.
- @1SingleLadyBug: shares the personal laughs, triumphs, hearbreaks, success and failures at dating.
- @DoomedSingleB: a thirty-something singleton gripes and giggles her way through online dating.
- @MissSpecialSoph: from single to in-a-relationship, follow Sophie’s dating adventures on Twitter.
- @singlegalnyc: a New York City transplant notes her search for love in the Big Apple through dating.
- @girlsgotshine: online dating, meetups, tweetups and blind dates equal good blog fodder for this single gal.
- @DivorcedD20: a recently divorced father discusses dating, divorce and parenting in California.
- @dudesonokcupid: real guys tell stories about their online dating adventures using OkCupid.
- @okcupidkillme: being a cognizant female on OkCupid means one thing: weird stories.
- @OKCupidCouch: three gals all online dating and the quotes this endeavor inspires.
- @CheapDatePhila: has cheap date ideas and tips for the Philly area.
- @ItsNotOkayCupid: a bold, hilarious webseries based on 100% true OkCupid dating stories.
- @SSDated: the dating and sex life of comedic graduate student looking for love.
- @FirstDateHell: summing up really bad dates in 140 characters or less.
Advice Columns and Help
- @TheGuyFriends: weekly dating advice from two straight males who are friends.
- @penmyprofile: expertly handwritten dating profiles, tailored to your unique self.
- @fakedansavage: responds to questions about straight, gay, bi, and out of the box dating.
- @datingguide: offers free advice, support and information to all things dating.
- @neilstrauss: shares secrets of professional pick up artists and dating gurus worldwide.
- @smfmarcus: tweets about the dos and don’ts on modern heterosexual dating.
- @welovedates: daily dating advice and tips, plus a free e-book download.
- @chiaraatik: dating expert and author of Modern Dating: A Field Guide.
- @melanie360: shares tweets about relationships, great date ideas, and dating theory.
- @DearMrsD: is the author of acclaimed dating book, “Spin Your Web.”
- @thedatingtruth: is a dating coach and champion for all people who are single.
- @ScotMcKay: dating coach and the author of “Deserve What You Want.”
- @theartofcharm: is teaching men to meet women and manage stable relationships.
- @datingtips101: dating advice and info for people in the dating world.
- @datingexpert: author Stephanie Alexander helps women Google their dates before they go out.
- @atwysingle: offers dating advice for non-students (high school and college kids need not ask).
- @LindsayChrisler: relationship and love coach based in both NYC and LA.
- @sexwithemily: sex and relationship advice from sexpert and co-star of Miss Advised.
- @datingstylist: is giving online dating a makeover and putting fire into the lives of singles.
- @singledatingdiv: an award winning dating expert and managing editor at Singles Warehouse.
- @whitegrlproblem: tweets about problems with dating in the first world – and any world.
- @datingadvicecom: shares advice about love in the time of boyfriends and girlfriends.
- @singlegirlguide: a twitter-space for women who love men and themselves, too.
- @iBoyFriendTips: a group for tips to how to stay happy in your relationship.
- @mydevina: the musings about love and sex from an irreverent fun 30-something in Orange County.
- @1stsightdating: a man gives other men advice on online dating dos and don’ts.
- @LasciviousAriel: gives dating and love advice as the female half of “Ken and Ariel.”
- @Tenacious_Ken: gives dating and love advice as the male half of “Ken and Ariel.”
- @URwingman: professional dating coaches give advice as to presenting your best self.
- @datingformen: one stop site for info and resources on dating just for men.
- @DeniseMWade: is a relationship counselor who helps singles and couples find love.
- @QuickieChick: posts ideas and news on staying fit and sexy for bed time activities.
- @Dear_John: a forum for recently singled folk to get and share advice and tips.
- @NickNotas: dating coach and confidence boosting specialist tells it like it is.
- @Feisty_Woman: a sassy advice columnist who takes questions about love and dating.
- @GirlsAskGuys: an ongoing series of questions from the female species to the males.
- @DatingForWomen: a resource for the latest tips and advice on dating for women.
- @ReIgniteRomance: professional sexpert tweest relationship, sex and love advice for women.
- @samanthafraser: a life and relationship couch shares advice on sexuality and dating.
- @TheSenorCGW: doles out relationship advice from the male perspective on City Girls World.
- @thecollegecrush: dating coach Kira and her team of co-ed geniuses dish advice to college kids.
- @kirasabin: love enthusiast and dating coach talks being single and dating.
- @DudeSociety: blatantly encouraging men to be their sexiest, most masculine selves.
- @BobbiPal: tweets to the over 40 singles crowd about how to find a man, and find yourself.
- @BreakUPclub: advice on the breakup blues and using your ex love to move onto your new love.
- @wotwentwrong: a new take on dating advice: crowd-sourced answers to love’s questions.
- @DenverDateDr: dating expert and author Christine busts out dating advice from Denver.
- @FantasyDaters: make dating fun with this part real-life, part fantasy online dating game for women.
- @FindKeepLove: tweets about the “simple” formula of finding love, then keeping love.
- @DatingInStyle: here to help people understand and thrive in the online dating world.
- @findingcupid: a simple guy on a simple mission: to inspire the world with love.
- @Women2Date: relationship services plus social tips for Russian brides and their grooms.
- @Tristan_Coop: be unlucky in love no more with love stylist Tristan grooming your for success.
- @lastfirstdate1: it’s never too late to find the love you deserve.
Online Dating and Matchmaking
- @howaboutwe: helping active people find friends and love locally through online dating.
- @okcupid: shares the best online dating profile practices based on numbers.
- @match: shares success stories from the world’s largest online dating company.
- @eharmony: tweets about stereotypical normal dating, love and relationships.
- @zoosk: connects millions of singles with specialized behavioral matchmaking technology every day.
- @plentyoffish: connecting singles for free daily with a unique matching system.
- @jdate: premiere destination for Jewish singles looking for dates and love.
- @grindr: the world’s largest all male location-based adult friend finder in the US.
- @girldateforfree: exists to promote online dating where women do not pay.
- @AMillionMatches: real relationship talk from a matchmaking company who introduces singles.
- @lavalife: find dating and relationship tips, tidbits and musings plus special offers.
- @sparklife: dating and relationship coach Samuel McCrohan doles out advice.
- @datinginternet: one of the web’s first online dating sites, operating since 1996.
- @The_Matchmaker: tweets about dating, romance, love and relationships from NYC.
- @SingleStilettos: offers tips on what men think and want from women dating experts.
- @thedatecoach: a third generation matchmaker offers her talents to the USA.
- @stagdining: tweets about dining and dating in the San Francisco Bay Area.
- @MarniBattista: is a zen dating and life coach helping people find sustainable partnerships.
- @matchmakerSD: a celebrity matchmaker and love expert dishing about dating, romance.
- @Chemistrydotcom: a hub of online dating news, matchmaking, and personality tests.
- @FindingLove14: where a relationship coach teaches couples to maintain relationships.
- @crushhub: an online application made specifically to help you set up your single friends.
- @FriendFlirt: a social application that uses your Facebook friends to help you find love.
- @pattistanger: the owner and CEO of Millionaire Matchmaker and millionairesclub123.com.
- @dateover: dedicated to helping you become the most dateable version of yourself.
- @DinaZColada: tweets about being a dating coach and offers tips for daters.
- @thelovetrep: is a dating coach and relationship expert who shares her wisdom.
- @eFlirtExpert: dating consultant agency is ready to help you meet someone online.
- @eflirtjillofall: a dating consultant always sharing good ideas for dating online.
- @dawoonis: the founder and CEO of Coffee Meets Bagel, a new way to online date.
- @coffeembagel: Meet one friend of a friend, everyday at noon. 100% Free.
- @arumkang: co-founder and online dating enthusiast with Coffee Meets Bagel.
- @GinaKerrigan: a bold dating consultant shares innovative ideas for your dating profile.
- @JulieSpira: top dating consultant and coach shares information about building relationships.
- @letsdate: is an application for online dating on your mobile phone – date everywhere!
- @grouper: a low pressure dating concept fleshed out: 3 friends meet 3 other friends.
- @hurrydate: a unique speed dating and matchmaking system to help you meet the one.
- @meetjuliet: an online dating site and daily article generator about dating and relationships.
- @whatthelove: Houston based relationship coach helps people go from struggle to snuggle in dating.
- @Train_Spottings: love conductor Erika takes matchmaking to the subway system in NYC.
- @JoelBild: encourages successful singles to break out of their shell and start meeting people.
- @DatingAdviceGrl: single life consultant and dating expert Erin brings her expertise to you.
- @BestDatingSites: a conglomeration of online dating sites that talks all things online dating.
- @FirstDateCoach: tweets online dating advice from a first date coach’s perspective.
- @DatingInsight: brilliant Stephen offers popular dating, love and sex advice online.
Dating Theory and Articles
- @nerve: revolutionized online dating, shares thoughts of love, sex and culture.
- @smartdatinguk: shares information for comparisons sake on dating in the US and UK
- @theurbandater: shares dating advice and articles for real people written by yes, real people
- @yourtango: gives advice to couples and people in peculiar dating situations
- @cosmopolitan: tweets about culture, celebs, lifestyle and dating in America
- @glamourmag: the latest on relationships, health, dating beauty and being a woman
- @datinginsider: is the primary resource covering the online dating industry daily.
- @singleedition: is a collection of writers and bloggers who talk dating shop every day.
- @thesingleshub: an online forum for singles- they hope you only stay a short time.
- @swexperts: is an amalgamation of online dating writers sharing relationship advice.
- @BlogHerLove_Sex: creates opportunities for millions of women to share their dating writing.
- @marieclaire: a woman’s guide to dating, relationships, fashion, careers and more.
- @forthemen: photos for men about dating and women – safe for work.
- @DateDaily: provides up to date celebrity hook up and break up news to kill time at work.
- @DatingRev: shares information from the datingverse and an avid online dating proponent.
- @singlewomenrule: advice and articles for women interesting in love and dating.
- @JessDowney: shares articles and writers her own stories about dating in NYC.
- @cupidspulse: a place where celebrity relationships and couples are discussed constantly.
- @notebook: tweets sentimental and inspirational quotes about all things love.
- @omgfactssex: tweets that center around sex, dating and relationship facts.
- @Redolpho: master of social dynamics and taking charge of your life, Eric, tweets dating.
- @nympsam: tweets about how to rock happy, healthy open relationships for adults.
- @PostDating: articles and intel on dating in New York City.
- @jozenc: a New York Post relationship writer talks dating, pop culture, and humor.
- @NakedWithSocks: award winning relationship consultant posts and reposts articles on dating.
- @GoodMenProject: tweets genuinely earnest ideas on how to be a good man in today’s world.
- @gurldotcom: tweets and retweets articles all about those pesky things we call relationships for women.
- @ThoughtCatalog: custom articles on the best, worst, and weirdest parts of dating.
- @HuffPostDivorce: curates and produces articles about divorce and the dating that happens after.
- @stellasingles: free online dating advice for men and women about dating, relating and love.
- @ElizbethLManess: relationship expert and business diva helps people meet their perfect match.
- @365CheapDates: tweets cheap date ideas from LA because money can’t buy love.
- @DatingChronicle: tweets about 100 dates in around 18 months around the country.
Updated: April 23, 2013.
Is your current relationship on the rocks? Does your partner just not understand? Or do you want to find a new relationship that will last? Seeking out dating advice online can be quite a chore, so we’ve compiled this list of the top 100 blogs by relationship experts to help you rebuild, renew, or begin a more healthy, loving relationship. Please note that the blogs are presented in no particular order.
33 New Blogs for 2013
Since we originally compiled this list in 2012, dozens of other blogs have come to our attention. Here are our favorites for 2013.
- Alison Says: relationship expert and coach Alison Robertson provides tips on dating and friendship.
- The Tantra Fusion Blog: written by sex therapist and relationship coach Jacqueline Hellyer, this blog and accompanying podcast focus on sexual intimacy within relationships.
- Annie’s Blog: the confidence expert and leading relationship expert in the UK, Annie Ashdown offers free tips, techniques, and tricks about dating and relationships.
- EPIC Dating Love and Relationships: dating artisan Dina Z Colada offers free advice on dating, love, and relationships.
- Gay Dating Expert: this popular gay dating advice blog features stories of real-life experiences and expert tips on how to successfully date other gay men.
- All Women Stalk: a veritable treasure trove of thoughtful blog posts on almost everything about love, fashion, weddings, parenting, personal care, and much more.
- The Problem with Women… is Men: relationship expert and bestselling author Charles J. Orlando offers insight into modern relationships.
- Cupid Blogger: Introducing relationship advice with down to earth approach on dating, love, marriage and relationship.
- Understand Men NOW: dating and relationship coach for women Jonathon Aslay blogs about what men are really thinking when it comes to love, sex, and commitment.
- The Unconventional Matchmaker: Singapore love coach Elyse-Anne blogs for smart and successful single women looking for success in dating and love.
- Hooking Up Smart: read about how to navigate the hostile terrain of the contemporary sexual marketplace in this smartly written blog by Susan Walsh.
- The Love TREP: This newly launched blog by Boston dating expert and coach Neely Steinberg helps the modern-day woman find the love she’s always wanted by learning how to date entrepreneurially.
- Dr. Pat Allen: author of the popular book and seminar Getting to I Do, Dr. Allen’s methods promise engagement (to the right man!) within a year.
- PinkBlitz Magazine: dare to be pink when you read this blog about sex, relationships, parenting, healthy living, entertainment and more.
- Marriage Issues: geared toward couples, Nace Volcic blogs about wedding planning, marriage, and — yep — even divorce.
- Joy of Romance: founded by Joy Nordenstrom, Joy of Romance offers matchmaking and coaching and also has a blog about all things dating.
- TheFeminineWoman: the Love & Attraction blog offers dating and relationship advice geared toward the naturally feminine woman seeking love.
- Ernest Quansah: author of Do’s and Don’ts of Relationships: Nine Steps to a Deeper, Richer Love Relationship and How to Identify Your Soulmate, discusses topics that affect millions of people; dating, relationship and marriage success, how to find your soulmate, personalized match systems and interracial relationship success.
- Getting to TRUE Love: previously single but now happily married for over 10 years, blogger Jane Garapick has been there before and uses her experiences to write her blog about how to find true love.
- Liberating Choices: Marci Payne writes about growing yourself so you can have more intimate and cooperative relationships.
- The Guy’s Perspective: these good guys in touch with their inner bad boy deliver straight talk and insightful commentary on dating, relationships, and sex.
- Life of Josie M. | Design. Style. Life: geared toward women, this blog written by marketing visionary Amy B. Perrault started as a single girl’s survival guide but now helps women improve both their personal and professional lives through style, education, and self-empowerment.
- Relationship InSite Blog: the Relationship Couple, Dr. Chani and Rabbi Shmuel Maybruch, help you achieve the ideal relationship you’ve always dreamed about. Learn practical tips to enhance emotional intimacy and happiness in dating and marriage.
- Free & Connected: heart-opening insights to create a relationship you love, by married couple Jerry Duberstein, PhD and Mary Ellen Goggin, JD.
- Couple Cards: not a blog, per se, but this technique helps couples grow stronger in their relationships, and perhaps best of all, it’s really fu, too!
- Loving Korean: answers to all of your questions about Korean guys and dating Korean men.
- Relationship Love Advice: Marlon Raye blogs about the real secrets to getting back your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend.
- Coaching with Roy: award-winning author Roy Biancalana blogs about a spiritual path to relationship bliss, from being hooked to being happy.
- Advice Sisters: credited with bringing the advice-infotainment genre online, this blog is geared toward women ages 20-55 and some adult men. The focus is on beauty, fashion, lifestyle, and relationships.
- DateMasters: a blog for men, on how to attract women and enjoy a better dating lifestyle and better sex. DateMasters is authored by Douglas Hall, a licensed NLP master practitioner, and his team.
- Couples Committed to Love: for couples who are committed to ensuring that their relationships endure, this blog is written by Leon Scott Baxter, who is neither a therapist nor a psychologist, but he does give very good advice.
- Kelly Speechless: a blog that provides relationship advice to women, on how they can “look, feel, survive, thrive, and activate their smart bitch inside”. Written by relationship advice coach Kelly Sowell.
- Romantico Brazil: not a blog, per se, but a fun dating site for those looking for Brazilian dating and romance. This is one of the most popular Brazilian dating sites on the Internet.
Original Top 100 List from 2012
Below is our original list that we compiled in 2012.
- Dr. Seth: a licensed clinical psychologist, author, blogger, and TV personality, Dr. Seth provides relationship advice, including articles on how women can stop failing for unavailable men.
- April Braswell: dating and relationship expert April Braswell provides tips for singles in this informative blog, including online dating profile writing tips and posting attractive photos.
- Dr. Wendy Walsh: seen on the Today Show, CNN, CBS, Good Morning America, and The View, Dr. Wendy Walsh writes a helpful blog about finding and keeping healthy relationships.
- Stephan Speaks: certified relationship expert and coach Stephan Labossiere’s blog is on a mission—to help men and women experience authentic, successful relationships.
- Dr. Michelle: with advice for improving your relationship, first date tips, and other though provoking articles, Michelle Callahan provides readers with a “tell it like it is” approach.
- Dr. Karen Ruskin: Dr. Karen’s blog covers such topics as monogamy vs. polyamory, men standing by women, cheating, and the relationship advice that can be gleaned from blockbuster “50 Shades of Grey.”
- Matt Townsend: renowned relationship coach Matt Townsend shares his thoughts on relationships in this revamped blog. Visitors are treated with an intuitive menu of articles that provide a “one stop shop” for relationship advice.
- Stephany Alexander: the founder of WomanSavers.com, dating expert Stephany Alexander publishes a blog that discusses breakups and makeups, and dating do’s and don’ts.
- Evan Marc Katz: this down-to-earth dating coach’s blog focuses on helping smart, strong, successful women understand and find great guys.
- Gil Rio: dating coach Gio Rio shares his secrets of meeting women learned by living on four continents and interacting with women from all cultural and ethnic backgrounds.
- Barbara J. Peters: relationship expert Barbara J. Peters writes an informative blog that span numerous topics including age and romance, the keys to successful marriage, and how to recover after an affair.
- John Aiken: dating expert John Aiken lays out topics that need to be discussed in the dating game—the dangers of the one night stand, why nice guys come in last, and decoding players.
- Sabrynne McLain: relationship expert Sabrynne McLain shares her thoughts on friendships, our public and private selves, meeting your man, and other interesting tidbits.
- Allen Berger, PhD: using a “Dear Abby” format, Dr. Berger responds to readers inquiries concerning relationships, love, and harmony in the home.
- Marlo Thomas: she hosts Dr. Sue Johnson, who writes about tips to make marriage last, couples in crisis, family communication, infidelity, and dating after divorce.
- Francis Nmeribe: relationship expert coach Francis Nmeribe provides helpful articles on relationships, dating, courtship, love, integrity, purpose of marriage, and fidelity.
- DeAnna Lorraine: relationship coach for the smart, successful man, DeAnna Lorraine’s blog is dripping with sage advice for the guy who wants to get the girl.
- Chuck and Jo-Ann Bird: every week, relationship counselors and board certified clinical sexologists Drs. Chuck and Jo-Ann Bird blog about relationships and how to improve them.
- Dr. Joy Davidson: Dr. Joy Davidson’s blog is her place to muse on empowering men, women, and couples in their search for connectedness and understanding as the build relationships together.
- Tara Fields: a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Tara Fields writes an informative blog on relationships, passion, conflict, and affairs.
- David Wygant: dating expert David Wygant hosts a blog full of dating tips and advice. His posts include discussions on how to approach a group of women and the best places to meet women.
- April Beyer: relationship expert April Beyer has been called one of the best in the business of dating and match making. Her mission is to change the way women in American date and relate.
- Shela Dean: this blogger gets tremendous joy helping couples have better, happier, more intimate relationships. Let her teach you the lessons she learned the hard way.
- Have the Relationship You Want: this blog features the musings of Rori Raye, who explores breakups, age in relationships, and other provocative topics aimed at helping you find and keep that special someone.
- Lovepost Blog: At Lovepost, readers of relationship expert Clio Garland share in her advice on love, relationships, and romance. She is a trained marriage and family therapist and provides tips on helping couples with engagement and marriage.
- The Relationship Doctor: in his relationship blog, clinical psychologist Dr. Bruce Derman confronts important topics including the quest for Mr. Right, divorce, and dealing with stress in relationships.
- Arnie Singer: through his blog Jcoach, Rabbi Singer helps his readers picture their dream partner and develop a plan to find them, attract them, and begin a relationship.
- Jane on Top: offers relationship and life advice to women who want to be in control of their lives in a fun and practical way.
- Platinum Girl Celebrity Blog: in this cute and hip blog, dating expert Vanessa Taylor explores celebrity romances to discover what famous women do to get and keep their lovers–and reports on the fatal mistakes that lead to heartbreak.
- Blonde Bronzed Twenty Something: dating and relationship expert Jen Kirsh offers women sage dating advice in this provocative blog.
- Blog Her: the bloggers at Blog Her revel their thoughts on love, sex, relationships, and romance. With over 50 million readers, Blog Her is the source for women to find community and connection.
- I Want Closure: this relationship blog is concerned with providing women keys to change the dynamics of their dysfunctional relationship. Topics explored include online dating, friends with benefits, and communication.
- Relationship 101 For Women: a relationship advice blog for women, Relationship 101 For Women engages women in topics ranging from emotional abuse to cheating.
- Love Overrated: this blog chronicles a woman’s journey through love, life, and relationships. She provides anecdotes that teach important relationship lessons.
- Dating Without Drama: this blog, written for a female audience, provides lessons on first dates, how to find and keep a man, and understanding how men think.
- Queen Bitch: not for the faint of heart, this blog goes right into the relationship issues women care about but are afraid to talk about.
- The Sexy Single Mommy: told with plenty of sass, this blog helps women empower themselves to realize love, success, and confidence, all while having a blast.
- Single Mom Seeking: relationship blogger Rachel Sarah muses about new ways of seeing motherhood, love, and family. Find articles on dating a single mom and becoming a step parent.
- Ms. Single Mama: Ms. Single Mama blogs about the things she has learned as a single mother and offers insight on life, love, and relationships.
- Braddock’s Blog: a blog designed for men. Braddock teaches you how to get confident and have the time of your life dating and building relationships.
- Single Dad House: let the relationship experts at Single Dad House give you the confidence to get back on the saddle and into the world of dating again. This blog is written with the divorced father in mind.
- Adam LoDolce: as the author of Being Alone Sucks and The Offline Dating Solution, Adam LoDolce writes a great blog that teaches men to abandon the same old tricks and truly connect with women.
- AnonymousMale1: this blog pulls no punches in describing the dating and relationship game from a male’s point of view.
- Crush Club Game: written by a relationship expert, this blog is geared towards guys. The author shares information that will help a guy with his pickup game and help him improve his existing relationships.
Online Dating Advice
- eFlirt Expert: Laurie Davis embraces the world of online dating with this funny look at eFlirting. She also explores dating in a world of social media.
- Cyber Dating Expert: features a blog and weekly dating advice radio show that combines love and technology to help singles look for love online.
- Pro Dating Info: blog that discusses the multiple facets of online dating. Readers will find articles on the new rules for online dating and the latest news on the online dating providers.
- JMag: the offical blog of JDate, the leading Jewish singles network. Features articles from relationship experts that discuss landing the first date, and many other fun topics.
- eHarmony Blog: the official blog for eHarmony, features numerous postings by relationship experts that teach ladies how to tell if he’s a good guy and discuss living together before marriage.
- Online Dating Post: blogger David Evans explores and analyzes the business of online dating since 2002. His insight is a great way to learn more about online dating.
- Online Dating Guide & Blog: relationship expert Brad shares his successes, thoughts, and experiences with online dating with the hope that others will find the same kind of success.
- Your Online Relationship Guru: a blog with hundreds of articles tailored towards online dating. Read about winning him back, dating etiquette, and inexpensive date ideas.
Advice for Couples
- Pat and Mary Save Their Marriage: a no-nonsense look at dating, romance, love, marriage, and survival told by Pat and Mary—a couple with a heartfelt story.
- Gottman Institute: the experts at the Gottman Institute Relationship blog are focused on strengthening and restoring marriage and relationships.
- Erwan Davon Teachings: this informative blog explores the more transcendent side of relationships, with articles on reality, character development, and touch.
- Relationship Problems Solved: this blog discusses online dating, tips, words of advice, and explains how to make the holidays special.
- Love and Relationship Advice Blog: relationship experts Susie and shares her thoughts on how she has helped hundreds of individuals and couples successfully conquer their dating and relationship issues.
- Mid Love Crisis: blogger Kristen Crockett shares her passions of writing and helping people create healthy relationships.
- Relationship Coaching Directory: this helpful guide can be your answer to pressing questions about love, relationships, marriage, and dating.
- Sow Peace, the Relationship Doctor: let Rhoberta Shaler help your relationship through her interactive blog. Find articles on anger management, loving relationships, and peace.
- Relationships 101: this blog was created for couples and future couples to help them find the way in as opposed to the way out.
- Relationships 360 Blog: this blog is the webspace for the talk show with the same name that airs on BlogTalkRadio. Tiffany Williams-Jallow provides relationship advice on race and gender.
- The Relationship Coaching Connection: chalk full of helpful words of advice for saving and strengthening relationships, including articles on things you should tell her and why he stopped calling.
- La Clef D’or: relationship expert Phyllis discusses the inner workings of relationships and how to keep them healthy and happy over the years.
- Considering the Lily: taking its title from a Bible verse, Considering the Lily is a blog told from the heart. The author passes on relationship wisdom gained from failure, heartbreak, and the will to keep moving forward.
- Relationship Renovation: the author of this blog understands that all relationships are present with challenges, and offers solutions to couples as they navigate those challenges.
- Turning North: written by relationship expert Chris Daniels, Turning North discusses the challenges of building and sustaining relationships.
- The Couple Connection: relationship and dating experts write about turning off work while at home, improving apologies, healthy dating, and much more.
- Relationships Ireland: the relationship experts at Relationships Ireland have one goal—to help everyone with their relationships.
- Win Your Ex Back Today: for those of us pinning after an ex, this blog offers numerous tips and tricks for getting them back.
- Poised Affluence: on this blog, several relationship experts thoughtfully share their personnel stories and provide analysis on lessons learned.
- Baggage Reclaim: written by author and relationship expert Natalie Lue, Baggage Reclaim offers helpful relationship tips for both men and women.
- Loves a Game: a breakup recovery blog, Loves a Game teaches readers how to prevent rejection from crushing them and how to rediscover themselves post breakup.
- Improving Relationships: this blog’s mission is to teach tools for personal growth, life enrichment, and supporting individuals achieving lasting, stable relationships.
- Hitched Mag: this blog’s mission is to entertain, educate, and inspire marriages. Readers can browse a host of relationship topics written by several relationship experts.
- AARP: AARP’s sex and relationship expert Dr. Pepper Schwartz has written 16 books on the dating habits of couples and singles and through her blog provides help to improve the relationships of those 50+.
- From Monogamy to Something More…: a couple blogs about their transition from monogamy to an open relationship and all of the bumps along the way. Warning: contains some adult topics.
- Fearless Love: the Fearless Love relationship coaching blog explores how anger and love interact, and whether you can define your love.
General Dating Advice
- Ask April: nicknamed “the new millennium’s Dear Abby”, April Masini is a best-selling author of several dating books and offers fans a fun blog that teaches how to date and find your soul mate.
- Your Date Coach: professional dating coach Christine Hart takes readers on a witty ride through the pleasures and pitfalls of dating. She empowers readers to jumpstart their single life.
- Dating Guide for All: the experts at the Dating Guide for All blog provide a variety of articles you need for success in dating. The blog is both funny and informative.
- Master the Art of Dating: this blog features articles geared towards both men and women. Written by a relationship expert, this blog will get you on the right track towards finding your special someone.
- Dating With Dignity: relationship coach Marni Battista writes in her blog that you should date fast, create your “who”, create your list of negotiables and non-negotiables.
- Advice for Dating at StopGettingDumped.com: author Lisa Daily, known for her best selling dating and romantic comedy book, offers up commentary on relationships, life, and love.
- Cupid’s Coach: At Cupid’s Coach, relationship experts come together to share their secrets on finding passionate, lasting love.
- About.com Dating: this dating site blog features dating experts talking about real relationship topics, including finding true love and happiness.
- LA Dating Blog: dating expert teaches singles in the LA area how to discover fun and unique ways to date on a budget in Los Angeles.
- Vanae: dating and empowerment coach Vanae provides a helpful blog that can give you added insight into what makes relationships works. She also hosts a video series.
- Advice from a Single Dating Expert: relationship expert Barry takes readers on a journey through getting the first date, to looking beautiful inside and out to find the love of your dreams.
- Astra Match Blog: the relationship experts at the Astra Match blog about all sorts of online dating related topics—from the benefits of online dating to tips for dumping your online boyfriend.
- My Dating Prescription: this relationship expert learned the hard way and through her candid blog tells women the pitfalls to avoid. Her goal? To date 100 men before getting serious with anyone.
- Soulmate Reading: bloggers Sophia Elise and Lady Sarah and soulmate psychics who turn to the within to help you find and keep your soulmate.
- Relationships 4 Love—What Mom & Dad Did Not Teach You: this relationship blog is aimed at both women and men and talks about topics mom and dad most likely did not review with you.
- Red Hot Relationships: relationship coach Bruce Sullivan helps his readers have happy, thriving relationships. Articles cover marriage, couples, and counseling.
- Love Sessions: every month, relationship expert Alina provides readers with a short answer to common questions about love, dating, and dealing with problems in relationships.
- OM Relationships: relationship expert Guy unravels the secrets behind getting a relationship that’s built to last through his thought-provoking blog.
- Get Relationships Right: through her blog, love coach Rinatta Paries helps singles attract true love, couples reconnect, and those in pain to find peace and heal their hearts.
- Dr. Romance Blog: love expert Tina Tessina explores love, relationships, culture, and life in general. The doc has eight book and 30 years of counseling under her belt, so she has a lot to share.
- Black Love Forum: at the Black Love Forum, relationship experts come together to provide advice to African American’s on dating, meeting the family, and keeping promises.
- Christian Relationship Blog: Mark Anthony McCray examines relationship issues in a Christian context, exploring satisfaction, spirituality, and temptation.
Introducing yourself online is a must if you want to meet someone. Whether you make first contact or the person does, if you’re interested, you’ll need to speak up through your keyboard. According to an online study performed by a leading dating site, the way you introduce yourself can literally make or break future contact. There are certain unofficial rules you should always follow during an introduction that will help your success in moving to the next level:
- Giving out Compliments on Looks: Ironically, giving compliments is not the best way to start out an online introduction. Of course most people enjoy compliments, but when used as a way to introduce yourself, it comes across to several people as a cheesy pickup line. Stay away from over-flattering words in particular, such as “beautiful.” “hot,” or “sexy.” If you feel you just must give out a physical compliment, stick with words such as “pretty” or “nice.”
- Grammar: Net lingo and acronyms seem to be the norm online these days, but awful grammar is a turnoff for most people. Not only does improper grammar make you seem uneducated in some people’s eyes, but it can also come across as laziness and immaturity. On the other hand, you don’t need to make your introduction into an English essay. Shortening words such as “don’t” or “you’re” actually shows that you know grammar, but doesn’t make your introduction too formal or stiff. In other words, practice the rules of good grammar but keep your introduction casual.
- Try Something Unique: Most potential dates read introductions with the same boring message each time. If you want to pique someone’s interest, you’ll need to be a bit creative when introducing yourself. The word “hello” is used more often than any other word in introductions, with the word “hi” coming in close 2nd. Try introducing yourself in a unique way that differentiates you from the rest.
- Interests: Another common introduction mistake is people being too general about their interests. You may love to play video games, but what games do you love? Instead of saying you love video, mention the exact games you enjoy playing. Perhaps you enjoy watching movies? Most people enjoy watching movies, but not everyone enjoys the same genre. Be specific. Talk about your favorite genre, and include a few of your favorite movies. This rule applies to any of your hobbies. You can also use this as a way to get the other person talking. For example, if you notice the other person likes rock music, ask about favorite bands or songs.
One of the biggest obstacles when it comes to online dating is not knowing if the other person is being fully honest. Although the best dating sites have an extensive profile creators filled with questions and answers, some people still insist on fibbing to make themselves seem more attractive. Not all dating site users do this, but, there seems to be a trend with certain subjects across the dating board:
- Photos: Not too many people put their worst photos online, especially on an online dating site. This is certainly not surprising. However, be aware that there are those people out there that will go to great lengths to photoshop, crop, and edit their photos in order to look more attractive. For example, a bald man may only post pics that have him wearing a cap, a chubby lady may only post a face shot photo, and people with acne scars may use photoshop tools to conceal their blemishes. A good rule of thumb is to look at the worst picture someone has on their dating profile, and bring down your standards a few notches. This will give you a more idealistic view of the person you’re talking with. In some instances, potential dates will be more attractive in person. Yet, since so many people are in the habit of making their photos seem more attractive online, it’s best to not get your hopes up too much until you’ve seen them in person.
- Weight: If you are out of shape and trying to get a date, chances are that your weight isn’t the first thing you want to share. However, almost all dating sites require its members to share their body type, whether it be curvy, athletic, chubby, or skinny. The bad news is that most people do lie about their weight. The good news however, is that this lie is one of the easiest to detect. If a woman claims she has an athletic body, yet only posts pics of her face, then there is a good chance she is hiding something. If a man claims to be muscular, but only posts pics of himself in baggy clothes in a bar, then chances are he’s not hitting the gym.
- Age: Men and women alike are prone to lie about their age, usually by a few years, but some people have been known to shave off ten years. Typically, men will lie in order to catch younger dates, and women will lie in order to appear more youthful and innocent. The problem with lying about your age is that unless you look dramatically younger than you really are, your fib will be exposed rather quickly. Additionally, if things get serious, the issue of age is bound to come up sooner or later, whether through a surprise party thrown by friends or taking a peek at a driver’s license. Always keep in mind that the age range of potential dates may be off by a few years.
- Career/Income: It’s not a secret that successful people seem more attractive. Even if they are not successful, lots of people want to appear successful online, and will lie about their income and careers. For example, a receptionist at a law firm may claim he is a top attorney. He may even claim he is on his way to become an attorney, yet in truth, he’s not even in school. A lady who works part time at a convenience store may say she’s the manager of an upscale retail store. The list goes on and varies greatly. Of course, not all people lie, and you could very well be talking to a brain surgeon on your favorite dating site, but keep in mind that there are those out there that see no problems with adding a few fake additional digits to their income.
Even after you’ve scoured the best dating sites, spent endless time weeding through the potential princes and the frogs, spent even more time chatting with potential dates and narrowing it down to that one seemingly perfect date, sometimes it still just doesn’t work out. What if you went on a date with the man you’ve chosen, only to be ignore and never called back? Sometimes, there is more there than meets the eye. Before you start blaming yourself and thinking of things you could have done differently, consider the possible scenarios that could have prevented your date from calling you back:
- He is Busy: As much as you may want your guy to call you back after what you considered a wonderful time together, it could be that he is just too busy at the moment to call you back. His work, friends, or other distractions could be preventing him from giving you a call back. Give it time before you throw in the towel.
- He Moves Slow: Many guys choose to take things slowly, even in the fast-paced dating world. Your guy could be very much into you, but just needs the extra time to process his feelings and what’s going on. Make sure to give him ample time before you decide he just doesn’t like you. If he does like you, he will eventually call you. Keep in mind, however, that you shouldn’t wait around forever. If a month has passed, there is nothing wrong with moving on and finding other potential dates.
- He is Playing Hard to Get: Unfortunately, men and women alike are given the ill advice of playing hard to get as a means to seem more desirable. However, this sort of game only works sometimes at best. Most of the time it leaves the other person wondering what went wrong. If your guy is playing the hard to get game, he may be purposely ignoring you just to pique your interest. The only way to truly find out is when he calls you back. If he acts cool and aloof, yet seems interested when he calls back, there is a good chance he has just been playing games with you.
- Bad News or an Accident: Last minute work plans, illness, a death in the family, and other bad news can happen to anyone at anytime. Your date is no exception. He may not have called you back yet because he has been dealing with a demanding boss who sent him on a work trip, or perhaps his sister was in a car accident. The good news is, once his unexpected events have been taken care of, he will call you back if he is interested.
- He Doesn’t Like You: Finally, there is a chance that your guy just isn’t into you. As much as we hate to think that, there is the possibility that he didn’t see the date in the same way as you did. He may have thought you were more of a friend than a potential partner, or maybe he just simply wasn’t attracted to you in person. Typically, many men would rather ignore you instead of you that he just isn’t into you. Unfortunately, the only way to really know is to call him and ask him yourself. Yet, if you feel uncomfortable doing this, then you should just move on and find a more suitable guy that’s going to call you back and enjoy what you have to offer.
Most people are always advised to steer clear of certain topics on a first date, such as ex-relationships or politics. However, at the same time, you’ll need to keep the conversation going with interesting ideas and questions. A bored date could potentially result in a last date, so make sure you’re prepared with easy yet intriguing conversation topics that will keep the monologue flowing smoothly:
- Work: Work is a great way to get to know a person and to show that you’re interested. Along with asking what your date does, make sure to ask if he or she is happy in the current role and where they see themselves in a few years. Additionally, finding out more about work habits and ethics is a great way to find out if this person is worth seeing again. Just be sure not to ask about income or anything too personal.
- Hypothetical Questions: “What if” questions help to keep the flow of the conversation moving without any awkward silences. Make sure your hypothetical questions are easy yet interesting questions, and have fun with each question by answering each one yourself. For example, ask light-hearted questions such as, “What if you had a trillion dollars right now?” Avoid over-the-top questions or hypotheticals that are too difficult to answer, such as death or illness.
- How you Met: Bringing up how you met is always an excellent icebreaker. If you met your date on a dating site, perhaps talk about your experiences. If you think your date is going to be successful, mention how the site is considered one of the best dating sites and that it seems to be working for you so far. Make sure to smile directly at your date when saying this. This will let your date know that you’re interested in a subtle way and provide an opening for a response.
- Favorite Things: This is usually a given, but asking what someone’s favorite book, color, movie, or band is, is a great way to get a conversation rolling. It also gives you a chance to see how much you have in common. You may have already known that you like the same music as your date, but perhaps you two were at the same concert many years ago. You may know your date’s favorite actor already, but this can lead to a potential date to see a new release.
- Future Goals: Aside from work, your date may have a book project in the works, or maybe he or she wants to visit Italy one day. Conversing about goals and dreams is not only a wonderful ice-breaker, but it gives your date a chance to talk about things that are important and positive.
According to the market research firm, IBISworld, at least 20 million people are utilizing online dating services. Many of these individuals have went on to have successful casual dates and even marriage offers, but several others have ran into people that were already married, lied about their appearance, or worse, lied about their entire background. It’s imperative to practice safety precautions when it comes to dating, whether online or off, but in the virtual world, added precautions will help decipher a frog from a prince.
- Don’t rush to give out your information. In fact, it’s a wise idea to use an anonymous email when meeting potential dates. There are several free email programs, such as Yahoo! Mail, Gmail, and Hotmail, which will allow you to create an account specifically for potential dates. Never use your full name or give out any specific details regarding your location until you’ve had a chance to get comfortable with your suitor.
- Consider having your first date at a public place, such as a restaurant, sidewalk cafe, or a movie theater. Never agree to meet a potential date partner alone anywhere that’s too secluded or private, such as his home or yours. Public locations not only have the benefit of being fun places for a first meeting, but also offer the added safety of having a convenient way to leave a situation that’s not going as well as expected.
- Don’t have unrealistically high expectations. Sure, it is nice to think that Mr. Wonderful is waiting at the other end of the chat screen, but most first dates aren’t successful. Many potential dates turn out to be less-than-desirable for various reasons, so it will take several attempts before you find someone worth dating.
- Above all, use your common sense and look for red flags. For example, be wary of anyone that asks you too many personal details about your life right away. Although it may be innocent, it’s uncomfortable to get too close too soon, and it usually means trouble. In addition, look closely at how your date talks to and about others. Some dates may make small talk by gossiping, but if it’s in excess, this could be a sign that you are with Mr. Negative. Finally, pay attention to inconsistencies. For example, if someone says he has a few dogs, then later says he has none, this should be a warning sign that he is less than truthful.
Over the past decade, the traditional ways of dating have changed dramatically. With the emergence of online dating sites, people who’ve otherwise been limited to casual meetings, blind dates, or meeting potential dates by accident in a local setting now have the ability to browse through literally thousands of singles on the best dating sites on the Internet. Although there is always a slight risk involved in meeting complete strangers via the web, with the proper precaution, online dating can be rewarding and can offer a variety of benefits that you can’t find through traditional dating:
- Online dating offers you the option of looking at several potential dates at the same time. Unlike traditional dating, you don’t have to go on different dates or talk to different people one at a time. By simply browsing through online dating profiles, you can find several potential dates at the same time, and eliminate the ones you are not interested in.
- Instead of taking an entire to figure out if you have something in common with your date, online dating sites allows you to search for others that have your same interests. For example, if you are into horseback riding and the outdoors, you have the ability to narrow down potential dates who are into the same things as you, and eliminate those who’d rather stay indoors.
- Online dating allows you to be yourself without having to worry about how your outfit looks or if your hair is in place. This will give you time to “chat” and get to know each other on a more personal level before meeting without having to worry about appearance jitters that typically comes from an in-person date. Although nothing compares to face to face meeting, the ability to relax and get to know someone without worrying about appearances during the initial phase can help you better prepare for your first face-to-face date.
- When utilizing an online dating service, you have the ability to find others that are looking for the same thing out of a relationship that you are. Instead of wasting your time on a date with someone who happens to be looking for different things than you are, you can simply filter those people out. For example, if you are looking for a long-term relationship, you have the ability to seek out others who are looking for the same, filtering out those who are only dating casually or looking for a weekend movie partner.
When it comes to online dating, the first initial attraction is typically by the photos that you present of yourself. The photo you choose as your profile picture can literally be the deciding factor as to whether potential dates will choose to learn more about you. In many instances, people may even move on to your personality questions and information if they are turned off by your photo. While it’s impossible to attract every single person that comes across your dating profile, there are proven ways that will get you noticed on the best dating sites and recognized more quickly as long you have the correct profile photo.
Tip #1- Old Photos
This tip is for both girls and guys. Future dating partners want to know what you look like today, not what you looked like at your high school prom or your summer vacation 10 years ago. Chances are that most people have changed quite a bit from the older pics. Even if you think you look the same, the retro hairstyle and clothes is usually a dead giveaway that you aren’t using an up-to-date picture.It’s best to use photos of yourself that were taken within the last three months so that there are no surprises when meeting.
Tip #3- Don’t Use Professional Photos or Glamour Shots
This applies more to the ladies, but men have been know from time to time to use this method as well. Do not use your glamour shot photos or any professional headshots as your dating profile picture. Even though these pictures may be the best ones you’ve ever taken, it’s usually a quick way to run potential dates off. Some people may consider professional pictures as fakes, while others just don’t care to see photoshopped and glamorized images. Settle for a more natural picture of yourself, smiling and candid.
Tip #4- Mirror Pics
A popular trend lately is for people to use their phones to snap self-portraits while standing in front of a bathroom or bedroom mirror. Unfortunately, this trend of photo taking not only creates blurry pics in many instances, but it’s also seen as childish and immature. Take the time out to have a friend or family member snap a picture of you that doesn’t entail you holding a phone by your face and smiling at a mirror.
Tip #5 – Smile; Look at the Camera
The best photo you can create for a online dating profile is one that’s natural, candid, and shows your features up close. Don’t hide your eyes behind sunglasses. Don’t surround yourself with several other people. Don’t stand on a mountain and present yourself as the “dot” that climbed up to the top. Instead, have an up-close face shot that accentuates your eyes, hair, and smile. A body shot will suffice as long as your face is clear and easy to make out, and you are centered within the picture. Although you may not like the mole on your cheek or the chip in your tooth, hiding your features will only prolong your future dates from seeing the real you. So smile a big smile, be yourself, and keep in mind that those that are attracted to the real you will let you know.
Every two minutes somewhere in the United States a woman is sexually assaulted. One in four women is a victim of rape or attempted rape. And 57% of rapes happen when on dates. Unfortunately, date rape and sexual assault are occurring more and more often and with the popularity of online dating today, it is necessary that women arm themselves with the knowledge to avoid such attacks.
Do not jeopardize your physical and emotional well-being for a night out of fun. By observing the following tips, you can still have a great time and date rape and sexual assault can be prevented because safety is in your hands:
1) Take a self-defense class. This is a great tool for women of any age, dating or not. By preparing for the worst by learning self-defense moves, you will know how to protect yourself if you should be in a dangerous situation.
2) Choose a public place. If you are meeting someone you’ve been in communication with online for the first time face-to-face, make sure you do so at a crowded, public venue. Do not rely on the guy for transportation—if you are alone in a car with a man you don’t know, you are putting yourself at risk and have an automatic disadvantage. Meet him at the place of your date.
3) Enlist backup. Double-dating or group dating with other couples on the first few dates with someone new is a good way to keep yourself safe. Having friends around that you trust to look out for you will help you feel more comfortable and decrease your risk for harm.
4) Skip the alcohol. Sound judgment is the first thing to go when drinking and alcohol makes a date rape situation more likely to occur. In fact, of all reported rapes and assaults, alcohol was a factor for 55% of women attacked and 75% of men who raped/assaulted. So for the first couple of dates, make sure you stick to non-alcoholic beverages.
5) Pay your own way. It is also a good idea to ignore the traditional rule of the man paying for your date. Some men tend to think that just because they bought your meal, you owe them something at the end of the night. To avoid any confusion about this, consider going “Dutch” and take care of your own ticket.
6) Give details in small doses. When first getting to know someone, be sure not to dish out every little piece of info on your life. Keep things like your home address, work address and other personally identifying information to yourself until you are comfortable and the guy has proved he is worthy of your trust.
7) Define the boundaries. To assert yourself as a strong woman who is in control of the dating situation, don’t be afraid to communicate with your date about what you’re comfortable or uncomfortable with. Let him know if you find his behavior unacceptable and if this should anger him, this is a definite red flag that must be heeded. Bow out and end the date right there.
8) Keep an eye on your belongings. Watch your purse, wallet, cell phone and drink when out with someone you’ve never met before. It is especially important to never leave a drink unattended or ever take a drink from someone you don’t know—there is the chance of being slipped a date rape drug.
9) Inform your friends. Make sure you let a friend or family member know where you are going and who you’re going with. Keep your cell phone on you and have them check in on to see how things are going throughout your date. Be sure to call this person as soon as you get home to let them know you are safe.
10) Don’t be overly trusting. It doesn’t matter if the guy seems nice or not…you still don’t really know a person from just one date. Don’t let your guard down—if you are overly trusting it may signal to a man with the wrong intentions an easy target. Rely on your intuition and if your gut is telling you something is not right, then there is no need to be polite and tolerate a certain environment—leave immediately and get to safe place.
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